Ev i\u00e7i \u015fiddet ve ili\u015fki \u015fiddeti konusundaki ulusal fark\u0131ndal\u0131k artsa da bunlara dair efsaneler, ki\u015fisel g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fler ve ger\u00e7ekler birbirine kar\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f durumda. Jacobson ve Gottman\u2019\u0131n kendi ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar\u0131na dayanan bu kitaplar\u0131 ise \u015fiddet uygulayan erkekleri ve \u015fiddet d\u00f6ng\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fc anlamak bak\u0131m\u0131ndan \u00f6nemli bir kilometre ta\u015f\u0131 te\u015fkil ediyor. Yazarlar on y\u0131lda iki y\u00fczden fazla \u00e7iftle \u00e7al\u0131\u015farak ili\u015fki \u015fiddeti konusunu ara\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131lar. Bulgular\u0131n\u0131 sunduklar\u0131 bu kitapta \u015fiddet i\u00e7eren ili\u015fki dinamiklerini vakalar \u00fczerinden inceliyor, istismarc\u0131 erkeklerin \u015fiddeti bir tahakk\u00fcm kurma arac\u0131 olarak nas\u0131l kulland\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131kl\u0131yorlar. Bu s\u0131rada da birtak\u0131m yayg\u0131n efsaneleri (\u201c\u015fiddet genellikle kendili\u011finden durur\u201d veya \u201c\u015fiddet g\u00f6ren kad\u0131nlar kendi davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirerek \u015fiddeti durdurabilir\u201d gibi) bilimsel ve ak\u0131lc\u0131 tart\u0131\u015fmalarla \u00e7\u00fcr\u00fct\u00fcyorlar. Ama en \u00f6nemlisi iki sald\u0131rgan tipi tan\u0131ml\u0131yorlar: Kobra ve Pitbul. \u015eiddet uygulayan bireyin hangisi oldu\u011funu bilmemiz, \u015fiddet i\u00e7eren ili\u015fkiyi kurtarma olas\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6l\u00e7mek ve kad\u0131n\u0131n nas\u0131l korunaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 saptamak a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u015fiddetin s\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131, itici g\u00fc\u00e7 sa\u011flayan psikolojik altyap\u0131s\u0131 ve hangi ko\u015fullarda iyice tehlikeli hale geldi\u011fi, istismarc\u0131 tipine g\u00f6re keskin farkl\u0131l\u0131klar g\u00f6steriyor. Yazarlar, \u015fiddet i\u00e7eren ili\u015fkilerin do\u011fas\u0131ndan gelen risk ve tehlikeyi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemeden, \u015fiddet g\u00f6ren kad\u0131nlar\u0131n istismarc\u0131 ili\u015fkiden kurtulmak i\u00e7in kendilerini nas\u0131l haz\u0131rlayacaklar\u0131n\u0131, nas\u0131l g\u00fcvende kalabileceklerini ve nereden yard\u0131m alabileceklerini de tart\u0131\u015f\u0131yorlar. Elinizdeki kitap, istismarc\u0131 ili\u015fki ya\u015fayan kad\u0131nlar\u0131n yan\u0131 s\u0131ra onlara yard\u0131m etmek isteyen arkada\u015flara, akrabalara, ruh sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve sosyal hizmet uzmanlar\u0131na, ayr\u0131ca sivil toplum g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fclerine de \u00e7ok de\u011ferli \u00f6neri ve rehber ilkeler sunuyor. \u201cBu on y\u0131lda istismarc\u0131 ili\u015fkiler \u00fczerine yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015f en \u015foke edici ve ayd\u0131nlat\u0131c\u0131 g\u00f6zlemsel \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma. Bu kitap, halk\u0131n, e\u015flerin ve terapistlerin \u015fiddet uygulayan erkeklere bak\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131, tehlike de\u011ferlendirme y\u00f6ntemlerini ve rehabilitasyon olas\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131na dair d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerini de\u011fi\u015ftirecek. \u015eiddet uygulayan erkekleri anlatt\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in bir yandan \u00e7ok \u00fcrk\u00fct\u00fcc\u00fc, \u00f6te yandan ise mutlaka okunmas\u0131 gereken bir yap\u0131t. Benim istismar i\u00e7eren ili\u015fkilere bak\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131 ve kad\u0131nlara verdi\u011fim \u00f6\u011f\u00fctleri kesinlikle \u00e7ok de\u011fi\u015ftirdi.\u201d \u2014Prof. Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Love Between Equals ve The Gender of Sexuality yazar\u0131 \u201cEv i\u00e7i \u015fiddet hakk\u0131nda yaz\u0131lm\u0131\u015f en \u00e7arp\u0131c\u0131 ve esinleyici kitap. \u015eiddet uygulayan erkeklere ve \u015fiddet g\u00f6ren kad\u0131nlara bak\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 sonsuza dek de\u011fi\u015ftirecek. Bu kitap, k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn do\u011fas\u0131na dair bir kavray\u0131\u015f kazanmak ya da ger\u00e7ek kahramanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n nas\u0131l oldu\u011funu \u00f6\u011frenmek isteyen herkes i\u00e7in mutlaka okunmas\u0131 gereken bir yap\u0131t. \u00c7ok yanl\u0131\u015f bir y\u00f6ne evrilen \u201ca\u015fk\u201d hakk\u0131nda bug\u00fcne dek yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015f en anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r ve ayd\u0131nlat\u0131c\u0131 tan\u0131mlar ile a\u00e7\u0131klamalar\u0131 i\u00e7eriyor. Hem \u00fcrk\u00fct\u00fcc\u00fc hem de merak uyand\u0131r\u0131yor; kad\u0131na y\u00f6nelik \u015fiddet hakk\u0131ndaki bilgisizli\u011fimizi sonsuza dek ortadan kald\u0131raca\u011f\u0131 kesin.\u201d \u2014Prof. Dr. Elizabeth Loftus, The Myth of Repressed Memory yazar\u0131 \u201cNeil Jacobson ve John Gottman, bir yandan kad\u0131nlar\u0131n sa\u011f ve g\u00fcvende kalmak i\u00e7in giri\u015fti\u011fi cesurca \u00e7abalar\u0131 y\u00fcceltiyor, bir yandan da \u015fiddet uygulayan erkeklere dair g\u00fcncel kavray\u0131\u015flar sunuyor. Yapt\u0131klar\u0131 ara\u015ft\u0131rma hi\u00e7 ku\u015fkusuz \u015fiddete dair yepyeni bir ara\u015ft\u0131rma alan\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131yor, kitap ise kad\u0131nlar\u0131n durumu iyice \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcmleyebilmesi i\u00e7in anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r ve uygulanabilir bilgiler i\u00e7eriyor. Jacobson ve Gottman\u2019\u0131n \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 hem yayg\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015flere hem de uzmanlar\u0131n varsay\u0131mlar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. Hi\u00e7 ku\u015fkusuz bu kitab\u0131n esinleyece\u011fi yeni ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar kad\u0131nlar\u0131n istismarc\u0131 e\u015fleriyle ilgili sordu\u011fu sorulara\u2014neden yap\u0131yor ve durmas\u0131 nas\u0131l sa\u011flanabilir\u2014daha kapsaml\u0131 yan\u0131tlar verilmesini sa\u011flayacak.\u201d \u2014Ginny NiCarthy, Getting Free ve The Ones Who Got Away yazar\u0131 <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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