K\u00e2bil\u2019i tarihin ilk sald\u0131rgan\u0131 yapan \u00f6ge, g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc ac\u0131 verici muameleye dayanmas\u0131n\u0131sa\u011flayacak duygusal e\u011fitimin eksikli\u011fiydi. Peki, bu duygusal miras o\u011fullar\u0131m\u0131z da h\u00e2l\u00e2 ya\u015f\u0131yor olabilir mi? K\u00e2bil\u2019i (kendi o\u011fullar\u0131m\u0131zda) sil ba\u015ftan yeti\u015ftirmemiz ve bu sefer ihtiya\u00e7 duydu\u011fu duygusal fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131 da kazand\u0131rmam\u0131z m\u00fcmk\u00fcn m\u00fc? K\u00e2bil\u2019i Yeti\u015ftirmek, s\u00fcrekli \u0131st\u0131rap i\u00e7inde ya\u015fayan, \u00fczg\u00fcn, \u00f6fkeli, korkmu\u015f, sessizo\u011flan toplumunun ayr\u0131nt\u0131l\u0131 foto\u011fraflar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ekiyor: Bir o\u011flan \u201charbi\u201d olmay\u0131 nedenma\u00e7olukla e\u015fle\u015ftirir? Her \u015feyi i\u00e7ine atmay\u0131 ve tek ba\u015f\u0131na s\u0131rtlamay\u0131 neden birg\u00fc\u00e7 g\u00f6stergesi gibi alg\u0131lar? Cinselli\u011fi neden hem k\u0131zlara hem de rakip hemcinslere\u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck sa\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir arena gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcr? \u0130\u00e7kiye, uyu\u015fturucuya ve \u015fiddete e\u011filimg\u00f6sterenler neden \u00e7o\u011funlukla o\u011flanlar aras\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131kar? Peki, anne baban\u0131nhem bireysel hem de bile\u015fik etkisi o\u011flanlar\u0131 nas\u0131l y\u00f6nlendirir? Ku\u015fkusuz, yeti\u015fkind\u00fcnyas\u0131ndaki cinsiyet\u00e7i, ayr\u0131mc\u0131, kolayca tehdit edilen, egemenlik kurmayamecbur hisseden ki\u015filik yap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n ve erkek \u015fiddetinin tohumlar\u0131 \u00e7ocuklukta at\u0131l\u0131r;k\u00f6kleri de \u00e7ekti\u011fi b\u00fcy\u00fck ac\u0131lar ve maruz kald\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lanma kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda ne yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131bilememi\u015f, dolay\u0131s\u0131yla da bunlara uzun d\u00f6nemler boyunca hi\u00e7 ses \u00e7\u0131karmadan katlanmak zorunda kalm\u0131\u015f k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir o\u011flandan beslenir. Kindlon ve Thompson\u2019a g\u00f6re bunlar\u0131n alt\u0131nda \u201co\u011flan do\u011fas\u0131,\u201d \u201cbiyoloji,\u201d \u201ctestosteron\u201dveya \u201canne kabahatleri\u201d de\u011fil, o\u011flanlara verdi\u011fimiz hatal\u0131, eksik ve toplumsaly\u00f6nden y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 bir duygusal e\u011fitim vard\u0131r. \u00c7\u00f6z\u00fcm ise \u201cduygusal okuryazarl\u0131k\u201dt\u0131r.O\u011flanlar\u0131n \u00f6dedi\u011fi (ve yeri geldi\u011finde \u00e7evreye \u00f6detti\u011fi) y\u00fcksek bedelin, maruzkald\u0131\u011f\u0131 (ve b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131) zul\u00fcm k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fcn, \u00e7a\u011fda\u015f ve insan\u00ee toplumlar taraf\u0131ndankabul edilmesi olanaks\u0131zd\u0131r. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla, o\u011flan ya\u015fam\u0131ndaki sosyal ve duygusalg\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fckler tan\u0131mlanmal\u0131, bunlar\u0131n yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 bask\u0131y\u0131 kald\u0131rabilmeleri i\u00e7in o\u011flanlaraduygusal fark\u0131ndal\u0131k ve empati becerileri kazand\u0131r\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r. O\u011flanlar\u0131n yeti\u015fkinli\u011fe uzanan yolda, farkl\u0131 ortam ve ko\u015fullarda ne t\u00fcr etkiler ald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131inceleyen K\u00e2bil\u2019i Yeti\u015ftirmek, onlar\u0131n duyarl\u0131, ince d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceli ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131umursayan erkekler olmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamak i\u00e7in ebeveyn ve \u00f6\u011fretmenlere, ayr\u0131ca o\u011flanya\u015fam\u0131na etkide bulunan di\u011fer herkese rehberlik edecektir. En \u00f6nemlisi de annelere, o\u011flan ve erkek olarak hi\u00e7 tecr\u00fcbe etmedikleri bir d\u00fcnyadan \u015fa\u015f\u0131rt\u0131c\u0131 ve\u00e7arp\u0131c\u0131 kesitler sunacakt\u0131r. \u201cK\u00e2bil\u2019i Yeti\u015ftirmek, o\u011flan ruhu dedi\u011fimiz o gizemli ve sihirli diyara dair, uzun s\u00fcredir ihtiya\u00e7 duydu\u011fumuz anlay\u0131\u015f ve kavray\u0131\u015f\u0131 kazanmam\u0131z\u0131 sa\u011fl\u0131yor. Her ebeveyn, \u00f6\u011fretmen\u2014ve o\u011flanlar\u0131n geli\u015fip serpilmesini isteyen di\u011fer herkes\u2014bu kitab\u0131 okumal\u0131.\u201d \u2014Daniel Goleman, Duygusal Zek\u00e2 yazar\u0131 \u201cE\u011fer bir o\u011flan seviyorsan\u0131z, bir zamanlar kendiniz bir o\u011flan idiyseniz veya o\u011flanlar\u0131n gelecekte nas\u0131l erkeklere d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fece\u011fini umursuyorsan\u0131z, bu kitab\u0131 okuyun. \u00c7a\u011fda\u015f bilimi ilgin\u00e7 anekdotlar ve dikkat \u00e7ekici, yararl\u0131 kavray\u0131\u015flarla harmanlayan Kindlon ile Thompson, o\u011flanlar hakk\u0131ndaki ba\u015fl\u0131ca kitab\u0131 yazm\u0131\u015f. Harika bir kaynak.\u201d \u2014Dr. Edward M. Hallowell, Dikkat Eksikli\u011fi Bozuklu\u011fu ve Affetmek \u00dczerine yazar\u0131 \u201cDan Kindlon ile Michael Thompson\u2019un yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 kitap, o\u011flan ebeveynlerine hitap eden kitaplar aras\u0131nda en iyisi… K\u00e2bil\u2019i Yeti\u015ftirmek, n\u00fcfusun yar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131layamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131za dair ikna edici kan\u0131tlar sunuyor ve bir o\u011flan\u0131n geli\u015fimini etkileyecek ve esinleyecek konumdaki herkesin kulak vermesi gereken \u00f6nerilerde bulunuyor.\u201d \u2014Colorado Springs Independent \u201cK\u00e2bil\u2019i Yeti\u015ftirmek \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli ve etkileyici bir kitap. Kindlon ile Thompson, o\u011flanlar\u0131n \u2018duygusal okuryazar\u2019 olmaktan, yani hem kendi duygular\u0131n\u0131 hem de ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n duygular\u0131n\u0131 daha iyi anlamaktan yarar sa\u011flayaca\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fc ikna edici bi\u00e7imde sunuyor. Ebeveyn ve \u00f6\u011fretmenler, bir yandan o\u011flan\u0131n \u00f6zerkli\u011fine sayg\u0131 g\u00f6sterirken bir yandan da onunla ba\u011flant\u0131da kalmay\u0131 nas\u0131l ba\u015faracaklar\u0131na dair de\u011ferli \u00f6nerilerden \u00e7ok fayda sa\u011flayacakt\u0131r. K\u00e2bil\u2019i Yeti\u015ftirmek, o\u011flanlar\u0131 daha iyi anlayabilmemiz i\u00e7in onlar\u0131n i\u00e7sel ya\u015fam\u0131na g\u00f6z atmam\u0131z\u0131 sa\u011fl\u0131yor. Son derece dikkat \u00e7ekici buldum.\u201d \u2014Prof. Dr. EleanorMaccoby, ThePsychology of SexDifferences ve TheTwoSexes yazar\u0131 <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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