Ebeveynlik alan\u0131nda ger\u00e7ekle\u015fen y\u00f6ntem de\u011fi\u015fimlerine kar\u015f\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n nas\u0131l bireyler oldu\u011fu ve nas\u0131l yeti\u015ftirilmesi gerekti\u011fi konusunda nedense hi\u00e7 de\u011fi\u015fmeyen birtak\u0131m tutucu varsay\u0131mlar bulunmaktad\u0131r. Bunlar y\u00fcz\u00fcndendir ki, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n \u015f\u0131marmaya, tembel ve bencil bireylere d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmeye son derece m\u00fcsait, hatta meyilli oldu\u011fu kanaati olu\u015fmu\u015ftur. Baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar ger\u00e7ekten de \u015f\u0131mar\u0131kt\u0131r, ama her \u00e7ocu\u011fun \u015f\u0131marmaya e\u011fimli oldu\u011fu g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fc, insan do\u011fas\u0131n\u0131 a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lay\u0131c\u0131 nitelik ta\u015f\u0131maktad\u0131r. Dahas\u0131, genel bilin\u00e7te yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 etki (\u015f\u0131martma korkusu) en sevecen ve temkinli ebeveynin bile zaman zaman kendine \u00e7izdi\u011fi yoldan \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131na, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 \u201cba\u015f e\u011fdirilmesi gereken vah\u015filer\u201d olarak de\u011ferlendiren y\u00f6ntemler kullanmas\u0131na yol a\u00e7abilmektedir.K\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn kendine \u00f6zg\u00fc kat\u0131 ve tutucu yanlar\u0131 bir tarafa, fikir, bilim ve teknolojisine ne yaz\u0131k ki b\u00fcy\u00fck oranda ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 hale geldi\u011fimiz Bat\u0131\u2019n\u0131n yan\u0131lg\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 ve bat\u0131l inan\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 da hat\u0131r\u0131 say\u0131l\u0131r miktarda ithal ederiz. Bu y\u00fczden de \u00e7oktan kafa kar\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131yla, kayg\u0131larla ve ku\u015fkularla dolmu\u015f ebeveynlik d\u00fcnyam\u0131za bir de \u201chelikopter anne,\u201d \u201cm\u00fcsamahak\u00e2r baba,\u201d \u201cyeti\u015fkin \u00e7ocu\u011funu h\u00e2l\u00e2 p\u0131\u015fp\u0131\u015flayan ebeveyn\u201d gibi aman vermez \u00f6c\u00fcler kat\u0131l\u0131r. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla, standart bir \u201cde\u011fer yoksunu, \u015f\u0131mar\u0131k \u00e7ocuk\u201d kal\u0131b\u0131ndan zaten korkmakta olan ebeveyn i\u00e7in her \u015fey iyice \u00e7etrefilli hale gelir ve \u00e7ocu\u011fun geli\u015fim a\u015famalar\u0131ndaki sakarl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n, beceriksizliklerinin, kendi iradesiyle hareket etme \u00e7abalar\u0131n\u0131n, hatta deneme ve yan\u0131lmalar\u0131n\u0131n bile \u201c\u015f\u0131mar\u0131kl\u0131k\u201d olarak nitelendi\u011fi (ve bu do\u011frultuda m\u00fcdahalelere maruz kald\u0131\u011f\u0131) k\u0131s\u0131r d\u00f6ng\u00fcler do\u011far.Alfie Kohn, \u00f6nceki kitab\u0131 Ko\u015fulsuz Ebeveynlik\u2019te k\u0131saca i\u015fledi\u011fi bu kanaat ve yan\u0131lg\u0131lar\u0131 \u015e\u0131mar\u0131k \u00c7ocuk: Bir \u015eehir Efsanesi\u2019nde oda\u011fa yerle\u015ftiriyor ve her zamanki gibi bilimsel veriler \u0131\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131nda uzun uzun inceliyor. \u201cZamane \u00e7ocuklar\u0131\u201d ile ilgili kimi inan\u00e7, kayg\u0131 ve ele\u015ftirilerin asl\u0131nda dayanaks\u0131z oldu\u011funu g\u00f6sterirken, hatal\u0131 kanaatlerin ne tip yanl\u0131\u015f alg\u0131lardan ve ideolojilerden do\u011fdu\u011funu a\u00e7\u0131kl\u0131yor. Sonras\u0131nda da esnemeyen, \u201cgelenek\u00e7i\u201d disiplin y\u00f6ntemlerinin h\u00e2kim oldu\u011fu k\u00fclt\u00fcrlerde, k\u00f6kenden gelen sertli\u011fin, yeti\u015fkinlerdeki olumsuz bak\u0131\u015f\u0131n ve kat\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n, hatta horg\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcn zihnimizin hangi k\u00f6\u015felerinde filizlendi\u011fini ve nelerden beslendi\u011fini anlat\u0131yor. Ama hepsinden \u00f6nemlisi, kitab\u0131n s\u0131ra d\u0131\u015f\u0131 son iki b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcyle, ebeveynlik yakla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 daha anlaml\u0131 hedefler do\u011frultusunda nas\u0131l irdeleyece\u011fimizi, yaln\u0131zca \u00e7ocu\u011fun esenli\u011fini de\u011fil, toplumun gelece\u011fini de i\u00e7ine alan bir bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 nas\u0131l yakalayaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131kl\u0131yor. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Ebeveynlik alan\u0131nda ger\u00e7ekle\u015fen y\u00f6ntem de\u011fi\u015fimlerine kar\u015f\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n nas\u0131l bireyler oldu\u011fu ve nas\u0131l yeti\u015ftirilmesi gerekti\u011fi konusunda nedense hi\u00e7 de\u011fi\u015fmeyen birtak\u0131m tutucu varsay\u0131mlar bulunmaktad\u0131r. Bunlar y\u00fcz\u00fcndendir ki, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n [\u2026]<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"featured_media":0,"template":"","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"product_brand":[],"product_cat":[12679,12357],"product_tag":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-713924","1":"product","2":"type-product","3":"status-publish","5":"product_cat-cocuk-psikolojisi","6":"product_cat-psikoloji","7":"pa_cilt-ciltsiz","8":"pa_tur-kitap","9":"pa_yayinevi-gorunmez-adam-yayincilik","10":"pa_yazar-alfie-kohn","12":"first","13":"instock","14":"sale","15":"shipping-taxable","16":"purchasable","17":"product-type-simple"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/roveyayinevi.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/product\/713924","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/roveyayinevi.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/product"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/roveyayinevi.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/product"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/roveyayinevi.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=713924"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"product_brand","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/roveyayinevi.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/product_brand?post=713924"},{"taxonomy":"product_cat","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/roveyayinevi.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/product_cat?post=713924"},{"taxonomy":"product_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/roveyayinevi.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/product_tag?post=713924"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}