“\u00dczerini \u00f6rtt\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz her \u015feyin alt\u0131nda kal\u0131r\u0131z.”Birine \u00f6fkelenme \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz yoksa onu sevmeyi se\u00e7emeyiz. Sevmeme \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz olmayan birini ger\u00e7ekte(n) sevemeyiz.Birine kar\u015f\u0131 hissetti\u011fimiz duygu \u201cona kar\u015f\u0131 hissetmemiz gerekenler\u201d diye \u00f6nceden tarif edilmi\u015fse, onunla meselemiz bitmeyecek, hatta ba\u015flayamayacakt\u0131r bile.Ger\u00e7ek hayatta \u201cB\u00f6yle hissetmem laz\u0131m!\u201d, \u201c\u015e\u00f6yle hissetmemem laz\u0131m!\u201d diye bir \u015fey yoktur \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc. Hisler ne y\u00f6ne gideceklerini gerekliliklere sormazlar. Hi\u00e7bir \u2018ger\u00e7ek\u2019 ve olgun ili\u015fki \u00f6z\u00fcnde nesnel de\u011fildir. \u00d6zneler \u2018ger\u00e7ek\u2019 payla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 nesnellik \u00fczerinden kurmazlar.Kabullenme \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz olmayan her duygu d\u0131\u015far\u0131ya akamayan bir irin gibi bedenimizi ve ruhumuzu ele ge\u00e7irir. \u0130\u00e7imize hapsetti\u011fimiz her duygu ayn\u0131 zamanda i\u00e7imizi hapseder.\u00dczerini \u00f6rtt\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz her \u015feyin alt\u0131nda kal\u0131r\u0131z \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc. Eksik oldu\u011fumuzu arar\u0131z, hem de eksik b\u0131rakandan ya da ona benzeyenden. Noksan\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, bizi zaten noksan b\u0131rakandan dileniriz bir \u00f6m\u00fcr boyu.Oysa yapabilece\u011fimiz yeg\u00e2ne \u015fey alamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ilgiyi, sayg\u0131y\u0131, duygular\u0131m\u0131za dair anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131, korumay\u0131 ve ko\u015fulsuz sevgiyi kendimize g\u00f6sterebilmemizdir. \u0130nsan ancak kendi kendinin ebeveyni olabildi\u011finde yeti\u015fkin, \u00f6zg\u00fcr ve mutlu olabilir.Bunlar i\u00e7inizde bir yerlere biraz tan\u0131d\u0131k geliyorsa bu kitab\u0131 okumaya haz\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. Size bu kitab\u0131n kimle veya kimlerle ili\u015fkinize dair oldu\u011funu s\u00f6ylemeyece\u011fim yine de\u2026 \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc biliyorum ki s\u00f6ylersem ka\u00e7acaks\u0131n\u0131z. Size iyi gelmedi\u011fi, sizi mahvetti\u011fi, sizi hasta etti\u011fi, sizi mutsuz etti\u011fi h\u00e2lde ka\u00e7acaks\u0131n\u0131z.Oysa ka\u00e7man\u0131n kendisiydi as\u0131l korkunuz. Biraz can\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n yanmas\u0131na izin verirseniz, can\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n yanmas\u0131 ge\u00e7ecek. Sizi kendinizin \u015fifal\u0131 ellerine do\u011fru \u00e7a\u011f\u0131r\u0131yorum.Cem MumcuYetenekli \u00c7ocu\u011fun Dram\u0131 adl\u0131 d\u00fcnyaca \u00fcnl\u00fc kitab\u0131n yazar\u0131 Alice Miller, Beden Asla Yalan S\u00f6ylemez ile bu hastal\u0131klar\u0131n nas\u0131l ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6zler \u00f6n\u00fcne seriyor. Bu kitap, duygular\u0131m\u0131z ile bedenlerimizin kaydettikleri ve ezelden beri i\u00e7selle\u015ftirdi\u011fimiz ahl\u00e2k kurallar\u0131na uymak i\u00e7in hissetmek istediklerimiz aras\u0131ndaki \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 ele al\u0131r. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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